“Nonbinary” (post 2): Pronouns instead of a host personality?

“As of 2017, the official stylebook of the Associated Press now recommends using the ‘singular they/them’ for nonbinary individuals. The trans community has further spurred the proliferation of new pronouns: s/he [etc.]—the list is innumerable, with comprehensive guides…Best practices include specifying pronouns in email signatures and business cards…and always asking for someone’s pronoun” (1, p. xviii).

For the mini-memoir I’m reading now in “Nonbinary” (1), the contributor’s biography gives the person’s pronouns as “they/them” (1, p. 250). However, the contributor makes self reference in the singular as “I” (1, pp. 58-59), not “we.” Does that mean their subjective sense of themselves is not that of multiple personality? Multiples sometimes do refer to themselves as “we.”

But multiple personality is very secretive, and multiples almost always refer to themselves as “I,” except when they rarely slip and use “we.”

Multiples don’t insist on being referred to as “they” or “them,” because their host personality is usually either male or female, and is usually unaware of alternate personalities, which often include both male and female personalities.

Is nonbinary a form of multiple personality without a host personality?

1. Micah Rajunov and Scott Duane (Editors). Nonbinary: Memoirs of Gender and Identity. New York, Columbia University Press, 2019.